I think I’ve posted a few times about this girl already, but I think I have a clear view as to what’s causing me all this mental chaos.
Long story short, I’m dating a girl (unofficially) who is pretty religious. She says it’s the most important thing in her life. I myself am an atheist and am quite critical of religion. I’m open-minded, but I’m not sure I can really be convinced at this point. It hasn’t affected us at all as far as intimacy/bedroom activities, which is surprising. However, about a month in I told her where I stood with religion (better now than 6 months down the road) and she actually got mad at me, talked crap about me to her friend and pastor, and dragged us into a long conversation about it.
It was civil, told her I admire her faith and conviction and meant it, and at the end it was like nothing happened. A lesson I can take from this is to be upfront and honest about it at the start, not wait like I did. I guess I thought it wasn’t that important for whatever reason, and I was wrong. It was hard for me to see importance in that stuff coming from my side of the argument, I guess.
I’m conflicted as to whether or not I want to continue this as if religious disagreements can cause this much grief early on, then I can only imagine what’ll happen down the line. She is willing to try and make it work, but now I just don’t know. I must say that she is fantastic in every way and I have nothing against her or her beliefs whatsoever. Does anyone think this can work or have any thoughts for me?
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Judging by her actions, it doesn’t sound like she’s strong in her belief. It sounds like she’s lukewarm. A person who is strong in their religion knows not to date an outsider because all religions says you should be equally yoked to your spouse . Also y’all are not even really official and are sleeping together?!.. this is something else that’s against most religions. So she’s not taking her religion that seriously .. at all. Sounds like she’s using it as a title for decoration but her actions aren’t following..
However when she does get more serious, she will absolutely resent you & want a man that she is more equally yoked too
I don’t see this working . (I’m a Christian women, I’m speaking from experience)
By continuing with this, I think you guys would both be wasting time
“she is fantastic in every way”
she’s really not though, fantastic people don’t do this…
“she actually got mad at me, talked crap about me to her friend and pastor”
she didn’t have a conversation, she didn’t agree to disagree, she brought in reinforcements to agree with her.
It can work as long as both of you accept others’ positions on religion, and neither of you makes it a point of contention.
Just understand that she is married to her religion, and it’s going to take precedence in your marriage. Do you agree to your kids receiving a religious education and going to church? In other words, you’re going to have to allow her to do her thing!
This is not something you bring up a month in. You should’ve made this clear before the first date. There are plenty of Godless women out there, stick with that.
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