On Monday night I (32F) had a reaction to some food, for the first time ever. It ended with me going to hospital and being diagnosed with anaphylaxis. My bf (34m) met me at the hospital and stayed with me until I was seen.
We’ve been together for nearly a year now and normally meet up 2-3 times a week.
But this week, I haven’t seen him since the incident. I found the whole thing really traumatic and scary and have let my BF know I’ve been struggling, but not once has he offered to meet up. (I went to a counsellor on Wednesday, so I’m not using bf as a mental crutch – I just want a cuddle.)
I’m tough and I’ve been getting on with it, but a hug would have been really appreciated over the past couple of days, especially as I had to miss a Xmas party from my new job. I don’t think I’m being unreasonable about wanting him to reach out without me having to ask.
Admittedly we did have a quick online game yesterday, but I don’t feel that’s enough. We barely spoke, then after a round he went to play another game with mates. I suggested meeting up to watch TV tonight, but he said he was too tired.
I want to talk to him about how I feel somewhat abandoned, but I don’t want to to come across as too needy or cramping his style. How would you suggest I do this?
TL;DR My bf distanced himself after I had a health scare. How do I speak to him about this?
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Was he freaked out by this for some reason? I agree that his reaction is odd and unsupportive.