How would you feel about receiving a promise ring that included a gem with the birthstone of the month you started dating?

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1. I think that’s super cute, I’m not so into the promise ring idea but adding the birthstone of the month you started dating is like a little extra touch and thought that had gone into that. At least to me.

2. That sounds super sweet!

3. That’s really sweet

4. That would feel extremely high school to me. Either propose marriage or don’t.

5. I would appreciate the gift but I’m in my thirties and I’d be a little put off by the promise ring aspect. We’re intending to marry each other and shopping for an engagement ring together so this would really come out of left field and make me wonder if he’s not as serious as I am about us. Promise rings, to me, are for people who aren’t ready to get engaged so that would cause some worry.

6. High school and college me would find it cute. Beyond that, not so much.

7. If you’re below the age of 21-22 it’s cute, but if you’re older it’s a little strange (in my opinion, we are all different) and I’d rather just wait for the real thing one day.

8. Nah, that’s something the 15 year old kids here do, and as someone 35+ I’d be be really put off by it. I would have hated it even when I was 18.

9. So dorky! I did date a woman several years ago who loved stuff like that, so I’d find it adorable with her. But anyone else? No.

10. I’d drive him to the hospital, because this is an imposter. My guy would never show any interest in astrology or special stones.

11. I don’t think I know what a promise ring is meant to be (like what are we promising?), but just a ring with that stone would be cute. Cheesy but cute.

12. Ok… but where’s the actual ring?

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14. What are you promising? Propose or don’t, or give jewelry that doesn’t have weird strings attached.

15. I don’t like the whole concept of “promise rings” and don’t care about birthstones, but nice jewelry is nice jewelry, so I’d appreciate it nonetheless.

16. Depends how old you are. Highschool is fine but beyond that just get an engagement ring or another piege of jewelry with the stone like a necklace or bracelet

17. Info: is this a birthday present, Christmas present..? Or is this instead of something else you’re expecting?

18. Info: are we 14 in this scenario?

19. I find promise rings odd in general and especially odd if the people are over 18, so it would be a little weird to me. I think for someone into promise rings, that sounds like an interesting way to choose it as long as the person likes that stone. There are some birthstones I really wouldn’t want on a ring for myself at all.

20. Promise rings seem silly to me, and they did even when I was in high school. As I understand it, they’re intended as a sort of pre-engagment thing, and I don’t get that. Either you’re ready to make a promise like that or you aren’t.

21. We’re in our twenties so just propose. lol. that’s highschool shit, I’d rather just have a longer engagement.

22. If I was a teenager I would think it was very sweet. At my current age (and if I wasn’t already married) it would seem a little juvenile. It’s the promise ring thing that makes it adolescent. The idea about the birthstone would be fine.

23. I’d find that super sweet, considering no guy has ever done anything romantic to me. But at the same time I’d want to actually be proposed to.

24. What’s the point of a promise ring? What is the promise? That’s what I’d feel weird about. If you’re not ready to get engaged what are you even promising?

    But getting a ring with the birthstone we started dating is a sweet idea just as a special gift. I just wouldn’t want it to be promising anything.

25. Pretty juvenile tbh

26. I’d probably feel ok about it if I was 15.

27. I’m 43. Shit or get off the pot.

28. I would feel like a 16 year old

29. I think it would be very sweet. I would appreciate the gesture, although if we’d been dating for a long time, I’d question why it was a promise ring and not just an engagement ring. But if it was a newer relationship, I’d love it.

30. It would be a thoughtful gift in high school. The concept of promise rings has given me the ick since I was around 20.

31. Honestly this sounds really sweet. I think it depends on age and communication. I think if it’s been communicated that marriage isn’t on the table at the moment, but still want to show a sign of commitment and love, I find it cute.

32. That’s not how birthstones work. If that doesn’t bother you, then whatever. Do whatever makes both of you happy.

33. I think it’d be cute, but im like college aged. I don’t think it’d be that cute past a certain age.. more embarrassing really. if im like 30, give me a wedding ring.. not a promise ring. you’re at the point in life where you should have most of your shit figured out.

34. I think it would be an adorable and thoughtful gift, especially if we both wear one. But it does depend on the nature and timing of your relationship

35. Depends on age and her taste. If you’re under 21 then it would be a CUTE gift. If that’s her taste in jewelry then it would be a sentimental gift. Otherwise I would suggest no ring unless it’s an engagement or something she says she wants as a fashion ring.

    You could do a gemstone like that in a necklace or bracelet but the ring comes off different

36. How old are you guys?