We are both pretty open with each other, and he knows I don’t care about him watching porn or masturbating especially considering we are long distance atm but during a convo about porn it got on the topic of paid porn/OF and he admitted to paying for it, ever since then it just makes me uncomfortable to think about because it just seems different to pay. And it makes me wonder if it’s a porn addiction.
We have a good sex life so I don’t really understand it
I don’t want to start an argument and make him think he can’t trust me to tell me things but idk how to bring it up to him or explain why it bothers me
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It’s just porn. Like anything else you get what you pay for.
Maybe he’d love making a porn with you instead if OF makes you uncomfortable.
Other people have said that too, so you’re not alone.
I think some people don’t like only fans because it can sometimes be “interactive”. I haven’t used it, but really, how is it any different that commenting on a sexy Reddit post. Like, they’re a stranger on the internet. The only difference is he is handing over like 5 or 10 bucks.
Perhaps think a bit more about why you don’t like it. I think it is fine to talk to your bf about it. But don’t make him feel bad about it. You can say thanks for sharing that info with you but it kinda makes you feel something
hi love!! i completely understand why this may make you uncomfortable. unlike regular (free) porn, paid porn obviously demonstrates that is he willing to spend his money on his sexual pleasure which may be unsettling for you as it shows he has a level of financial commitment and priority to pornography. for a lot of women, their partners showing any level of a “chosen” commitment to another woman during a relationship – especially from a sexual standpoint – is enough to send them crumbling. i understand that this may be a hard conversation for you to approach with your boyfriend, but letting him know your feelings towards this is essential for growth in your relationship. prioritization of your comfort is extremely important, and should never be left on the backburner – let alone, unmentioned. there are a lot of ways you could go about introducing this conversation to him – though, it depends on how serious of an issue you see this as between the two of you. let me know what you’re thinking. lots of love <3
I mean technically if u pay for it it’s more likely to be ethical. And ur paying the creator on OFs, not some male AHs from the industry that have taken advantage of her
O.F? Or sites ike Youjizz etc – that you can actually watch for free?
Just be thankful he’s not paying for a hooker.
There is a huge difference to watching a random vid on pornhub and paying/subscribing to a specific creator on onlyfans.
If it’s any help… I do OF for a living. A vast majority of the men who pay for it never interact. It’s more ethical to pay for porn because you know what you’re viewing is consensual. If they do happen to interact, it’s all 100% fake. I play a fantasy role, there is no relationship building of any kind; the subscriber chatting id well aware they are with a fake persona. It’s not too much different than leaving comments on pornhub.
You’re 100% entitled to your boundaries. Once you understand his motivations and reasoning a bit better, you’ll be able to set those boundaries appropriately.
Eta: OF can also be tailored to exactly what he was looking for. Sometimes it’s way easier to pay for a video of someone doing exactly what you wanted to see than it is to scroll through hundreds and hundreds of misc videos on the internet hoping to come across it by chance.