Are male friendships normally shallower than female friendships, or have I just been unlucky?

I’m in the US, early 20s, in college for reference. I’ve read online and and been told the stereotype that your guy friends will tease you, but will always have your back and tell you what they really think. Whereas female friends will shower you with compliments, are more emotional, but talk behind your back. But I’ve also heard, and observed, that women have much stronger support systems in times of difficulty because their girl friends tend to be close-knit and great listeners, while guys tend to keep things to themselves. But I’m unsure if guys stay quiet in hard times because they can’t rely on their guy friends or if it’s because they think it’s feminine to emotionally vent or both?

I don’t understand why guys can’t just be more literal or serious rather than beating around the bush teasing. There’s often a sense of competition there. I can never just sit down and talk with guys, we always have to be doing something. And the few guy friends I’ve had haven’t really been there when I’ve needed to vent or needed assistance in dark times. It’s like they don’t know what to say or do in times of need. With guys they’ll often say things like “That sucks” or “Move on” or “I don’t want to hear this/I don’t want to talk about this.” And it’s like, okay, yeah this sucks, but that phrase sounds so offhand and I’m trying to move on, but I can’t, and shutting down when I’m looking for help is unhelpful. My male friendships have always felt shallow. Great for activities and when you want to have fun and fool around, but that’s about it.

I find my female friends that I’ve had to be far more compassionate, understanding, loyal, and reliable. If I want to go hiking or to a museum, they’ll join me. But they’ll also be happy to just sit down and talk. I’ve had female acquaintances and friends I could call when in need and they were always helpful and happy to help. I’ve never experienced this with guys tbh. The times I’ve called the guys I’ve known, most of the time they shut down and like don’t know what to do? My female friends fill me both with the funner side of friendship and the deeper side of it. But again, this is just my experience. I’ve also heard that guys depend on their girlfriends for support more than their guy friends, but when girls are in relationships, they seem to view their boyfriends and female friends as both vital and lean on both for support. Like, I’ve had many girls in my life vent to me about how her boyfriend scares her or confuses her or just asking for advice on how to handle her boyfriend, but I’ve never had guys talk much about their relationships besides the passing shallow comments like “She’s great/hot/I like her” or “Things are going well with her” and that’s about it.

I don’t know if this is because I’m not into stereotypically masculine things like football or sports in general, going to bars, cars, drinking, and talking about girls and sex? Like, I love going on adventures and traveling and hiking and things like that, getting out in nature and exploring, but not much sporty things. I wonder if maybe unconsciously guys don’t see me as their equal or someone they can fully relate to and so they subconsciously cut me off, in turn causing them to not get close to me?