1. I make a statement.
2. The other person explains why he disagrees with my statement.
3. I was not swayed by the counterargument, but I don’t see any reason to try to persuade him, so I change topics.
4. Later, the issue comes up again and I act/speak on my initial opinion, and he says, “We talked about this!”
It’s like people assume I automatically absorb their opinions just because they spoke them in my presence. I believe what I believe for a reason, so it’s unlikely I was disuaded by one counterargument (generally one I’ve already heard a million times).
Do I have to continually say, “I disagree?”. Must I engage in the argument if I don’t want to deal with, “We talked about this!” later?
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You need context.
Sounds like when you capitulate, they’re taking it as you agreeing. I think you might add in between Your step 2 and 3 a light but firm statement of your stance.
IE. “Welp, looks like we’ll have to agree to disagree! Love what they’ve done with these decorations.”
“Hmm, well I’m not so sure about that.
…. But what do you think about these decorations?”