We’ve been married nearly three years and were together a couple years prior to that as well, but we’ve never used toys. My wife has a vibrator but has never really mentioned it as she’s pretty vanilla/inexperienced. Our sex life has been mediocre lately – we were trying to conceive but had issues which made sex feel like work – and I’m hoping to spice things up.
What’s the best way I can do this without scaring her off?
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join reddit sex toy groups and show her some stuff, she will slowly start as she will undersatnd the safety and plesures
You literally just ask her. Hey wife, do you want to check out some toys we could try using? If she says yes, great. If not, ask her what she’d like to try instead.
I think the better question is why did you marry someone you can’t openly, comfortably, spontaneously have vulnerable conversations with? You should be able to mention anything at all to your partner without fear of pushing her away. Cause the only advice you’ll get here is ‘just talk to her’
So is she not getting off? Can’t imagine she is if she is inexperienced and not using toys
Beat way is to talk to her. Ask her what she thinks about doing something like this.