An ex from a couple years ago just texted me out of the blue and said “I hope we find each other in our next lives”
We broke up because she was going through some personal shit (recovery) and couldn’t hold space for me to offer any help or support. It didn’t end too dramatically, and we’ve been on okay terms, text once or twice a year maybe.
I don’t really know what to say. I wish I could figure out if she’s trying to reconnect, she’s having a hard time, she’s just feeling wistful, idk idk.
Should I just ask what she’s after? Should I ignore it? Tell her my own feelings?
I just don’t know how to respond to that message help
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I see so many relationship subreddit posts asking strangers on the internet for help in interpreting an ex’s vague text out of the blue. They always ask “what do they mean, what do they want?”, **but the real question is “What do YOU want?”**. Because you’re not required to bend to the whim of someone you’re no longer in a relationship with. Consider what kind of relationship you want with them (platonic, romantic, occasional chats, or no engagement at all), and decide your actions in accordance with your values and goals.
Ask her for clarity cuz that message could be interpreted in different ways
“In our next lives” concerns me. If it were me, I’d send a reply & see if she’s ok. But then, I don’t know her. She might be prone to flowery, melodramatic turns of phrase.
You had to answer: “Why another life if I can still find you in this one?” Boooom. Depends on your feelings ofc.
You don’t have to delve into it so fast. Maybe just send a text back asking her how she is doing. Just start with casual conversation and see where it leads naturally.