So long story short, my husband (M, 28) and I (F, 28) have been married for 4.5 years. My husband has a few good buddies that he went through firefighter training with. This guy in particular is a good friend of ours (M, 33) and so is his wife (F, 31). We have been good friends with them for about 1.5 years now. We don’t see them too often though because we both just had babies this year and everybody is busy all the time.
However, last night we went to a Christmas party with these friends. Everything was great, everyone was having fun. There was alcohol involved. Towards the end of the night I was chatting with said friend and he asked me to go check out a bonfire there at the party (the party was outside but the bonfire was a few yards away). I thought nothing of it as we had all been back and forth from there all night long. So we went and we were just chatting and he started to lean into kiss me. I pushed him away and told him I would never do that and that I love my husband and care about him and his wife as friends. It seemed like he came to his senses and he said that we shouldn’t be over there and to go back. So we went back to the house and that was that.
I told my husband what happened on the way home and the conversation didn’t go great. This morning he said he’s not mad at me and that he’s sorry that happened to me.
I feel gross… violated.. I trusted this guy, he is literally like a brother to me and now I feel very uncomfortable. I’m not sure how to go about this. Do we never see them again? Does his wife need to know? What does this mean for my husband?
TLDR – husband’s friend tried to kiss me at Christmas party. I pushed him off of me. Now I feel dirty and guilty for ruining my husbands relationship with his buddy.