I’m sure these types of posts are common here so apologies for the repetition. It was my birthday on Sunday and my partner didn’t do anything. I had planned to have some drinks with my friends in the afternoon (lucky I had organised that a few days before because she hadn’t planned anything). She obviously came along and joined with my friends, but I didn’t receive a gift / card or anything from her. I’m not really a materialistic person but I believe it’s the thought that counts, and I love cards more than anything. I would have been happy with just a card. It’s been a very hard year health wise for me also. I have some beautiful friends whom I received some cards, gifts etc from, but nothing from my own partner.
When we got home from drinks, she said she was going to go to her Mums annual carols night and then she’ll come back later. I asked if she wanted me to come and she said yes. I mainly said that because I didn’t want to be alone at home on my birthday, but going to her mums Christmas carols night didn’t feel great either. She only sprung it on me last minute that she was going to her Mums carols on my birthday night, although she would have known for weeks it was on and she was going to attend. We stayed all night and when we got home just went straight to bed.
I’m not sure how to bring it up with her, I don’t want to sound ungrateful or needy, but there is a feeling in my gut that just doesn’t feel right about it. Any advice on how to tell her?