So, title is pretty self explanatory, but I’ll try to explain what’s up.
My girlfriend and I have been talking about doing a threesome (we’re both lesbians, so the third party would obviously be a girl). We’re long distance (been dating for two years, we’re serious and happy with each other) and we agreed a while ago that we’re only open to the other one kissing someone randomly at a party when we’re apart (no before-talk or previously arranged, no keeping in touch afterwards, really just someone we find attractive in that moment; we both agreed on this equally) and when we were talking about it, we said that it wouldn’t happen when we were together like in person. And I said “I’d only be up for it if she’s interested in both of us, otherwise it’d be weird to see one kiss someone else in front of the other” and she said “yeah that’s exactly what I think” and messing around with the idea we mentioned having a threesome and being up for it.
We both love having sex with each other, and we really connect over it. We’re loving, we feel every touch; that’s also why we’re not open to one of us having one-on-one sex w someone else (neither one-night stands nor other sexual partners) which is again agreed upon by both of us equally; this is something we’d like to experience for funsies, to put it some way.
I should also mention, neither of us agreed to the idea or thought about it with someone in mind, it’s more of a “what-if we like the same girl at some place and the possibility pops up?”
She mentioned she liked the idea but was worried one of us would feel left out given how intimate our sexual interactions usually are, and honestly I kind of felt the same. We still want to do it, just trying to figure out what would be good (and what wouldn’t be) to do or say to each other during it, while also not making the third party feel left out, used or like a toy.
(Also, is it best if it’s someone neither of us is really friends with? Someone completely random? Or someone we really know?)
So, basically, does anyone have any tips on this type of situation, or would like to give me some insight as to do this the best, most comfortable and enjoyable for all involved as possible? (I don’t mind reading your own experiences)
Thanks 🙂
edit: damn y’all are definitely judgemental, thanks for automatically asummung it will go bad without even knowing how much we’ve talked it out and not really answering my question, I guess?