We are currently semi LDR. I see her every other weekend or lately one or two days a month. She works a hybrid role in my city 2 days a week and commutes 1.5 hours to work, one way. She has a very active social life and works 2-3 jobs. She works so much because she feels she does not make enough money, where I feel like if she toned back on her social outings, her salary would be plenty for one person let alone a family. I have not told her this, as I think she should be able to do what she wants, but I feel like it’s putting a strain on our relationship. I honestly think she is an amazing partner, she’s very attentive and a pleasure to be around, when she’s around.
She puts an emphasis on spending time with her coworkers outside of work for happy hours, sporting events, and things like even going to work out classes after work with her friends. That is fine. She can spend her time how she wants.
It’s recently come to a head because she is telling me how busy she is and how she has all these things to do this month. I have seen her maybe 24 hours this month and 2 days last month when she lives 1.5 hours away. Anyways, she had plans with a friend on Friday night she was going to stay the night at and come visit me on Saturday and leave Sunday morning. Her friend canceled and and I asked her of Monday that week if she wanted to visit Friday night and she said she was really busy and wanted to catch up with work/spend it alone. Okay that’s fine. The very next day, Tuesday, she says her friends invited her to hang out and she was going to visit them on Friday. Am I being overly sensitive? She is a busy body.
I am looking at the future and I see myself lonely if we close the distance. Is this just a differing point of view in relationships? She is absolutely not doing this on purpose. Some insight would be great.