To give a little context, we’ve been together for a year and a half now, and have a bit of trouble understanding each other sex-wise. He’s not very experienced and we spent most of our relationship focusing on his pleasure (I asked for it because I was raped and assaulted, and needed time to heal). So our compatibility wasn’t really an issue before, but I’m better now, and my (healthy) libido has been back for a while. His is very low, and I thought it was my fault, we can’t do penetrative sex (vaginaly) so maybe he was unsatisfied, but no. He’s absolutely fine with it and even told me that he isn’t hopping for anything in sex, that it’s simply not really an important part of his life. It’s quite the opposite for me, I’ve been interested in sex since I was a child (thanks to God nobody took advantage of it before I was a teen), and it has not left me since.
Sadly, it has been a great source of pain since I’ve started having it, BUT I had some really good experiences (not a lot but still), and I miss these moments. I want to know what it’s like to have good sex again. I try my best to teach him what I like, but he has some trouble doing it right, and it’s OK, it takes time, but there’s other things. As I can’t do vaginal, I’m really into anal, and he does not like it. I like cnc and he absolutely refuse to try, I absolutely get it and obviously won’t force him but it’s frustrating. I like giving him oral a lot, but it’s not satisfying, it just makes me more horny. I know we have to persevere, but I’m starting to doubt we will ever be compatible.
(He’s against an open relationship for some of you who may ask)
So, do you guys think we can ever compensate this lack of synergy with good communication?