TLDR: My ex broke up with me in October and I’m still distraught
My ex for 3 years 25m (me 22f) told me that I wasn’t feminine and wasn’t wearing dresses and that prompted him to mention he’d been unhappy for 6 months and needed to take a vacation to clear his head( birthday trip I had planned and became excluded from)
He took a new girl and led me on for about a month saying he wanted to work things out and wanted to go to couples counseling before eventually having his mom break up with me. He is now seeing the same girl he took on the trip and mentioned that she doesn’t have a job cooks and cleans for him while he works and it’s weird as in she’s 23f and who gains joy out of just sleeping with someone and doing things of the sort.
I don’t get why I’m distraught or why their relationship has lasted at least 3 months and I am not sure how to entirely get over it because he told me I was mean, and that he’d internalized all of our arguments that we had and apologized and the other girl doesn’t argue with him. How do I get over this it’s deeply affecting my grades and I’m in college?