I workout at a gym, where I’ve been going for like 5 years now. At the gym, there is this female trainer, who is a pretty chill with me. We joke around literally all the time everyday. Today, the same thing was happening, and out of no where, she snapped and got annoyed at me and told me that this is happening a lot today and that she won’t tell me again.
I still don’t know what I said to her that had her react that way, as it was nothing different from what we always talk about. And I’m too angry/egoistic to ask her what was it that I said. Because we do that all the time, she jokes around with me, I joke around with her. And I never got mad at her ever or told her that it needs to stop. So what is this behaviour? Can joke with me but can’t take a joke? It’s annoying.
Anyways, she replies to my messages on Instagram (that were sent before this little drama), and has replied as if nothing ever happened at all. I haven’t replied to her as I’m angry right now and I’m pretty sure I’ll end up saying something I don’t wish to.
I have 2 questions.
1. Do I need to apologize to her for whatever it is that I said? I don’t want to come off as a loser by doing this, especially when I haven’t done anything out of the ordinary or wrong.
2. I am super annoyed by what happened, but I don’t want to say anything because I feel like it might change the nature of our friendship and I like her a little too much and I don’t want that to happen. But I know I can’t just ignore this, at least not yet. What should I do?
TL;DR: My friend got annoyed at me for no reason and I don’t feel like apologizing because it makes me come off as a loser.
EDIT: To everyone who tried to help and provide some perspective, thank you, it has helped me and I now know what I have to do.
To everyone asking for more info, this has been resolved since posting. Thank you for wanting to help though, appreciate it 🙂