To put it simply my gf (F19) says I (M19) don’t love her and only see her as an object of pleasure. This couldn’t be farther from the truth. In the 2 years of our relationship I’ve gone to tooth and nail to make her smile. I organize dates and events to go to. I pay for everything. I sing her songs, I write stories based on my feelings and send them to her. I hug her and kiss her a lot. Whenever I tell her how much I love her she always cries of joy. I wake her up Snow White style. I love the shit out of this woman. Even though we live 2 hours from each other and I make the trip without a car to go to her or bring her to me. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong.
My guilty part is that yes, I do tell her from time to time how much I want her in a sexual way. I don’t mind when she says that to me but when I do it she immediately gets upset and says I’m a pig or a narcissist. It is true however that whenever we’re in person I can’t control myself because she is just damn too much pretty. We don’t see each other often, only 1 date per month because she usually cancels my dates. And I miss her touch so much sometimes I get incredibly frustrated, especially since we haven’t had sex yet in our 2 years because I told her I wanted my first time to be special.
But I end up feeling guilty whenever I get excited. I really want to change her mind but it seems she only sees my sexual advances and forgets about my romantic efforts or words. I believed for a long time that I really was a head-pushing douche who didn’t care for her, but I recently realized that is not true. My feelings are true.
Just yesterday, she said I only see her as an object and that she can’t remember a single date without sexual advances. This is false, though and I surely remember non-sexual dates we’ve had. At this point, I’m really close to finally dumping her once and for all, not just for this but the constant rage and date cancelling and sarcastic hidden insults I constantly get. I honestly do not know what I can do at this point
Tl:dr: My gf is convinced I only care about her body and ignores every other effort I do. How do I change her mind?