I recently got into a new school where I don’t know anyone. Since it’s the middle of the year, everyone knows each other and has their own groups. I’m kinda shy, I’ve tried to talk to a feel people but I don’t think I was able to get any connection, people seem to just listen to me to not be rude and proceed to ignore me afterward. What could I be doing wrong, or what could I do to improve it?
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Is it a big school? Just keep sitting next to the same people in class. See if there are opportunities to meet outside of class, or see if it feels natural to follow the each other on socials. Finding out what your hobbies are helps a LOT because you meet a lot of people in clubs or after school stuff.
Genuinely connect with people in real life e.g. ask how they are, their hobbies, interests goals, opinions, etc. Listen and pay attention to what they say. Share those things about yourself when asked. People also subconsciously attach you to the value you bring. The value you bring is a clear, unique, and convincing reason why people will interact with you, let alone do so constantly. So Find ways to add value to their lives. Having In person interactions is the easiest way to stand out from countless people who text or message. People remember and favor in person interactions because of the positive vibes. If your hobbies, skills, talents align with their interests or can help them, bring it up and offer to help them. Finally, learn how to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with people on the side. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead gravitate towards those who are self confident and well rounded in life. They want to see active confirmation of you actually doing something in your life other than just talking to them. So chase excellence, not people.