I (m30) have been with my girlfriend (f28) for 6 years.
She has always struggled with mental health and has been to therapy for depression and traumatic experiences with an ex. Relationship was great with plenty of sex and intimacy until 3 years ago when she started to have an aversion to sex.
Fast forward to now and we have had no sexual contact in 2 years and I do not know what to do. I love her but my resentment towards her due to the lack of intimacy has grown to the point that I am incredibly unhappy.
She goes to therapy once per week and is on antidepressants and stopped taking her birth control in hopes that her sex drive would return. It has not.
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You have to change your whole views about sex and what you want in a relationship.
Doesn’t sound worth it to me.
Coming from someone who was on antidepressants, I think that itself has a LOT to do with it.
I was on it for a bit, it completely changed my personality, the way I talk/act etc. my sex life was ruined. Little to no libido, no sensitivity & ZERO interest in sex. Sex actually turned me off & I got bored of it.
She is likely experiencing the same thing. I know everyone’s experience is different but antidepressants has literally changed my personality to the point I don’t remember myself anymore.
I think the pill has a lot to do with it. If she’s acting cold & distant all of a sudden too it’s the anti depressant. I was an emotionless zombie for many months. She likely has 0 feelings too.
Highly recommend her see a psychiatrist that can either take her off the pill or switch to one that doesn’t have sexual side effects.
Have you had a conversation with her about this? That’s probably the place to start.
You’re 30 and resent her , wait till you get older.