I recently started dating a wonderful guy, and everything has been going great. However, when it comes to intimacy, there’s a pattern I’ve noticed. Most of the time, he initiates and seems enthusiastic, staying aroused during activities like hand jobs and blowjobs. Yet, when we attempt sex, he becomes soft almost immediately and we have to stop. I have gotten on top of him three times and it has happened.
I’ve asked him about it, ensuring that it wasn’t something I was doing wrong, and he assured me I’m doing everything right. When I asked if there’s anything I could do to help, he jokingly mentioned that “his body hates him.” I’m not sure what that means exactly. The conversation seemed to make him embarrassed, so I changed the subject quickly. But I did tell him it was fine, I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t making him feel uncomfortable or doing anything wrong.
Should I bring up the issue again if it persists, or should I let him work through it on his own? I don’t want to being it up again, and instead of him feeling comfortable, he feels like he has to preform and there is pressure for him to stay hard. Any advice is welcome please!!