As a 25yr bisexual man, I’ve explored my body plenty and found out what I enjoy and what I don’t. Discovering I liked men as much as I do women, made me delve deeper onto the side of men more, which in turn made me realize how much I really love prostate massaging. So much so, I can achieve orgasm without stimulating my junk.
For the past 10 years, that’s what I enjoyed the most, and more recently, realized how much the idea of performing penetration sex on someone else does not make me feel like a major “desire” compared to prostate play. Like, I know by standard practice, most men, or people with penises, feel more compelled or aroused by the idea of penetrating someone or having their penis pleasured in some way, and you know what? Yeah, that is our primary sex organ, so it makes sense. But for me, the more that I think about it for myself, I never had that instinctual behavior to do that and it makes me feel a bit weird about myself.
The idea of having someone go to town on my butt and pleasure me like that feels like a genuine desire; a full body pleasure experience; one that makes me so excited. But me actually penetrating someone? It doesn’t feel/sound the same, and my penis feels more like a tool (ha) to get the job done vs the same sexual satisfaction with my prostate. I’d be more than happy to oblige in my partner if penetration is something they want, because it’d be wrong of me to deny them of something I can provide.
I think part of the reason I feel like this is because I don’t inherently have those “super masculine” qualities and ideas of going to town on someone, or that “my dick needs ultimate pleasure” or anything like that. I just massively enjoy anal play/prostate massaging way more than the normal way, but I can’t help but feel so weird and foreign to penetrating someone. It’s not like a body dysphoria thing either.
Has anyone else felt similar to this kind of feeling towards their body?