I have autism and mixed ADHD and my very loud natural voice has been a huge problem all my life. I know every behavioural therapy trick in the book of how to be a good friend, but people naturally dislike me because my voice is too loud. I am usually completely unaware of the volume of my voice unless someone tells me it’s too loud, which most people don’t feel comfortable doing. If I actually focus on making it quieter, it’s an active and draining effort, and I unknowingly fall back into being really loud the moment I start thinking about anything else.
What can I do? how do I go about even beginning to fix the problem? It wasn’t an issue when I could make tentative friends by being forced into school together, but now that that’s not the case, the only friends I can make are online and I can’t play games with my online friends because I’m too obnoxious to VC.