I’ve never questioned my sexuality and I don’t really question my status now either. I’m straight – I watch straight porn, only really desired to be with a woman, and the thought of being with a guy is pretty uncomfortable – kinda.
I grew up in a conservative Christian home (35 now) and sex was always 1 man with 1 woman, period. In the last few years however, I’ve been trying to challenge my mindset on everything sex related. I was judgemental and felt a lot of shame around anything to do with sex and I don’t want that anymore. I’ve made some huge mental leaps in this area.
All of this said, in my reflection and challenging of everything to do with sexuality, I questioned the ethics of a threesome with my spouse, naturally at first, a ffm threesome. In reflecting on speaking to my wife about this, I considered her situation – what if she came to me with the question of could I do a MMF threesome with her? I was pretty uncomfortable with the thought of it initially.
Since, I’ve thought about it a fair bit. I’ve watched some (very very little) bisexual porn, been more excited to see a guy climax in straight porn, and even had the thought of maybe it wouldn’t be that bad. While I am still uncomfortable with the idea, I’ve thought that if I could be bisexual it sounds like an incredible position to be in. Not only could I (theoretically) have a threesome, but I could do so with sexes that I actually like – plus it feels like a better deal to ask my wife for a MMF threesome before a ffm threesome.
So, I’m heretosexual now – but is it possible to think and will yourself into becoming bisexual?