I (27f) and my bf (37) have had this repeated issue that does not seem to get resolved. We have dated for 3 years now and the problem seems to resurface so often. After year 2 in our relationship, i have opened up about my childhood trauma of being raped by my cousin at 14. I have gone to therapy and cannot seem to get this issue fixed. I have told him that i notice him checking out women and it makes me uncomfortable. I have told him it makes me uncomfortable because it feels like when he has looked at other women, he wants to have sex with me. I feel like an object. When i confront him about him checking out women, he denies it and says it’s unconscious. Also tells me that looking at ass and tits do not mean anything to him. But yet when i say if it means nothing, whats the point of doing that.This is an ongoing issue that seems to resurface at least every month or so. Am I the crazy one? Do I need to fix my trauma and not put the blame on him?