I’m 40, my sister is 35
I’ve recently found out that anything I’ve told my sister. She goes and tells other people.
Things about my previous relationships.
Things about our parents we’ve talked about. To give some context on this. My mum died 15 years ago. Since then the family has kind of fallen apart. Except me and my sister have always been quite close. I thought.
Anything we’ve said about my Dad. Regarding our childhood, good and bad. Things I’ve told her that I thought was in complete confidence.
Personal problems I’ve had. Not sure if the context of this is relevant. Ask if you like.
She’s either phoned or told my dad everything. Also sent him screenshots of my messages. Not in a “let’s sit down and have a chat about my brother” kind of way. But in a slagging off kind of way.
I’ve also figured out she has been bad mouthing me to my cousin too. For my behaviour after my mum died. To give context. I spiralled, and had a bit of a drink problem for a few years. I didn’t hurt anyone but myself.
I understand it isn’t possible for you to fully understand the history of a family. And the full context of all the issues. Or even if they are even relevant.
My main problem is that I don’t feel like I can trust her anymore. We haven’t got much family left and I’m a bit gutted.