Me and my boyfriend have been together for two years. We’re in a loving relationship, very loyal with each other and we plan a future together.
Last week I passed by my ex in a public space and we made long eye contact. He was my first love and I haven’t seen him in over two years.
For some reason since that day I saw my ex, I can’t stop thinking about him and what he’s up to. I can’t stop feeling the urge to text him to ask him how he is (even though have not contacted him for two years).
I love my boyfriend so much and I would never cheat on him nor ever get back together with my ex but I can’t help but be curious. I’m wondering if this is normal or if there is something wrong with me.
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Curiosity killed the cat (:
I definitely wouldn’t text your ex. That will only put the good relationship you currently have on the rocks. If you are truly happy with your current bf, then there is no reason to look elsewhere. But that begs the question, are you getting everything you need from your current bf. If the answer is “yes I am”, then I think you are just wrapped up in the idea of your ex. He was your first love and that forces you to have an extremely strong connection, even if you parted ways. Always remember you two broke up for a reason, it’s easier to look at past relationships with rose colored glasses when a long time has passed. But definitely please don’t text him, if I was your boyfriend and I saw you texting your old ex from 2 years ago behind my back, I would almost certainly leave you. It’s definitely normal to an extent, I’m not sure what your thoughts entail. Best of luck.
So play the tape through- what would happen if you texted your ex? Where would that leas with the ex? How would your BF feel? Would you have to hide it? Is ex someone you can or want to be friends with?
Think about your real reasoning behind why you feel you want to text him. Is there something unresolved on your end? Are you just curious? Maybe write a letter with everything you want to say… then do nothing with it, or burn it. Just to get it out. If nothing good would realistically come of texting him, don’t bother.
That’s funny- I saw my first ex in the supermarket the other day and was filled with rage.
You’re not mature enough to be in a committed relationship.
Break up. Then do whatever you want with the ex. But leave the new ex alone forever.