So, I started dating my boyfriend 6 years ago. I found him to be the most sane person I knew around. It was kind of a secret relationship, as we didn’t want anyone to make a big deal out of it. Also, we didn’t think much about the future and just wanted to enjoy some quality time together. Those were some great days.
Last year, I moved to another country to study for my PhD. Now, we have a time difference of about 7 hours where I am 7 hours behind him. He used to be cool before, never really caring about where I was going and who my friends were until last year when he got super possessive about me. Now, he even wants to move countries and marry me.
These days, he is fighting with me about a lot of things. For example, if I am going out with some colleagues and friends to the pub, he stays up all night and then gets angry with me for no reason. Sometimes, he asks me to do random things; for example, now he wants me to send a selfie of all the places I go in a day. To be honest, I am a little shy about clicking pictures in public, especially selfies, so I send him a close picture from the front camera, to which he gets super pissed and asks why I am hiding the background. When I asked him if he doesn’t trust me, he said he got bored of seeing a close picture and instead wanted a proper selfie. When I told him I am shy, he said, ‘What about the mirror selfie you clicked with your male friend? Were you not shy in clicking that?’
I got super pissed off, thinking, what is my fault in this? If I was cheating on him, I would never send him any pictures. Also, before, he used to fight with me for not messaging him when I’m out. So, I started messaging him, but one day I forgot to tell him that we changed the pub, and he googled the timing of the previous pub, which turned out to be closed at that time, and he fought with me a lot, asking why I didn’t share that detail with him.
I don’t know; it’s 5:41 am in the morning here, and he fought with me so much that I am literally crying. I don’t know what I should do. Can anyone please advise me on this?
TL;DR: Dated my boyfriend for 6 years, and everything was fine until I moved abroad for my PhD. Now, he’s become possessive, fights over small things, and demands constant updates, making me upset. Need advice on how to handle the situation