It has been two years since my (33M) last relationship and more of my friends are pairing up. Being the third wheel is starting to get embarrassing. I am happiest in relationships.
However, the number one piece of feedback I get after most dates is, “I just didn’t feel a spark.”
So…I’ve taken the following steps to upgrade my appearance and self confidence to encourage sparks. What else am I not considering? Would be great to have unbiased feedback since my friends all tell me “you’re amazing! It’s them, not you!” Clearly something is off if my success rate is so low in the biggest city in the US.
– Worked with a personal shopper at Bloomingdale’s to pick out some new outfits
– Signed up for OrangeTheory classes and have attended several times a month for over a year
– Purchased new cologne
– Worked on more flirty conversation topics (hard for me as a direct communicator)
PS: In 2024, I am deleting my dating apps and signing up for a number of charitable and cultural events where I can meet single people organically. Fortunately, my culture has a large presence in my city.
Happy to provide more details as necessary. Anyone else overcome the issue I described?