About two years ago I moved my girlfriend down to Fort Lauderdale for my job that I got a promotion for. I got us a two bedroom luxury apartment downtown las Olas, paid for all of our activities and most things around the house (groceries etc.). She started a job at a bakery to hold her over while finding something better. The company I worked for ended up getting bought by a hedge fund and i got screwed, not making nearly what I was promised, but I still did everything and covered our living/ activity expenses.
My girlfriend decided to lease car, and at the dealership she called me in the middle of my work day asking me to co-sign a crazy high lease/ insurance contract. I regretfully suggested she try with her mom. Realistically I regret that and should have done it, but I didn’t think the terms were good and figured that’s something we would talk about before making a decision. Instead of coming home and discussing it with me or getting other options she signed an extremely high lease/ insurance deal with the car sale guy. He pressed the hot button he realized she had, he told her I should have signed, basically calling me a shitty boyfriend and that he would take care of her(taking care of her as in push her to sign a very high fee contract without talking to me on impulse). Virtually manipulating her to sign an extremely high rate contract. My opinion is she should have came home and talked it through with me first.
Regardless what I’m boiling this down to is she is coming at me saying I ruined her life and that I didn’t help her enough.
What else can should I have done for her? Is covering living expenses, activities, dinners not enough? What else would you suggest I have done?
Any advice would be very much appreciated.