Hello,
I (21M) am in a 3 year relationship with my GF (22F) things have been more or less good in our relationship since the start of our 3rd year together. She is always moody, complains, makes offensive comments regarding me. She started to also get really clingy as every time I want to spent time on myself or with family she gets really annoyed and starts acting moody with me. She constantly want us to spent time together, however she always complains when we do, about something. She has some kind of issue with my brother (who I am very close to and we like to spend time together). She makes offensive comments on how I can’t live without him and I am too attached, some things like that. On top of all of that she is never in the mood for anything. She could talk about something she wants to do and when we get to do it, there is only complaining and bad behavior. I am in no way the best boyfriend, but I try to do my best all the time.
There is another thing I don’t like and that is about how she has like a “set plan” including kids and marriage in a couple of years. When I told her that it would be hard as I want to manage my career first, she told me that “we won’t be compatible” and that there are others who will love her plan. She has a problematic family and family past as she had an alcoholic dad (passed away) who caused a lot of trouble and does not have a very good home situation now, although her step-dad is not a bad guy. I feel bad for her as I know that the roots for most of her problems come from there, but at the same time she refuses any help or an attempt of talk (proceeds to listen, without a reply and nothing changes). I think it’s best for us to break up, but at the same time I am second-guessing myself.
Could you give me advice on what should I do? Do I try to make the relationship alive again, or is it best for me to end it as she will never do it?
TL;DR – I (21M) need help figuring out what to do with my GF (22F) as I things have gotten really hard. Should I break up?