Me and my of are 26 y/o and we’ve been in a relationship on and off for 5 years. We just moved in over a month ago and it’s not great at all. I see people talking about puppy love when you first move in with your partner but that hasn’t been the case at all. Before moving I had my hesitations as I know my boyfriend comes from an upbringing where stuff was done for him. His mother essentially did it all around the house so now that he’s moved out he doesn’t really do much. I’m big on organization and cleanliness and I hate feeling like I’m the only one that gets stuff done in the house or just doesn’t leave shit laying around. Coming home from my 12 hr shifts and not seeing things tidy really puts me in a bad mood. (I’m not asking him to scrub the floors literally just have things tidy)
I’m now in a predicament as I don’t know what to do.
I’ve told him briefly how l’ve felt with the cleanliness situation and just yesterday when I came from work I complained about the couch looking a mess and he got upset and we’re not talking to each other. I’m beginning to think he’s resenting me or hates me.
The attraction isn’t there anymore we don’t even have sex but mainly because I’ve just been so turned off but I think being recently moved in and only have sex twice in a month is kinda red flag. Also not sure how breaking leases in nyc works so yea. I just need some type of advice to make me feel better please
TLDR: just moved in with my BF and it isn’t going well because of his lack or organization and I think it’s taking a toll on the relationship