I’ve (33 f) been seeing this guy (35 m) and one night he took me to his place for the second time and we had dinner. After dinner, I felt really sleepy and asked if he wanted to take a nap. We went to his bed and cuddled. He started kissing me and doing other things, then he took out a condom. I told him I didn’t want to have sex, so he continued to just do foreplay, by going down on me. At one point, I didn’t like it. So I pulled his face upwards, and then I started touching myself instead. He felt offended i guess as he said, “No, let me. That’s rude.” At some other point, he started fingering me and tried to insert his finger and I told him to stop. He asked if I was a virgin, I said no. Then I asked when was the last time he got tested. He laughed a little. I asked why is this funny, and he told me it’s a weird question. So I turned around and lay in bed for a couple of minutes before I started putting on my clothes. He watched me with a grim face till I was done, then he asked me, “So you’re done now?”
He got dressed then drove me home and was silent all the ride home. When we arrived, he told me that he is very upset and that I “treated him very badly.” I asked if it was the testing for STDs question and he said not just that. I said what then? And he said since I don’t know then it’s worse that I don’t know why he’s upset. He told me we will talk about it later, then I left. Can anyone give me a clarification on what happened? Why he was upset?
He never talked to me about it and I never want to see him again nevertheless.