We have tried to have the conversation about 5 times now since around August and baby will be born in this upcoming month. He wants to give the baby the first and middle name of his mother who is deceased. I never met her and I’m not close to his family. I simply don’t like the name at all but I’m willing to compromise using it as a middle name. I spoke to him about a list of 20-30 names I like and he had criticisms about every name. He said things like “That sounds like a stripper name” or “Who has that name historically that the baby can look up to?” or “It’s a random name with no meaning, it should have meaning” or even “It’s not a Christian name”. Sigh. I’m not even religious and when I said okay which Christian names do you like…it’s crickets. No suggestions. I even read him the top 1000 baby names currently in the US and nothing stood out to him.
I made it clear that I won’t change my mind on using his mother’s name as a first name but it’s still his only suggestion. I sent him a link to an app that we can swipe left or right on names in hopes we match a few but he thinks it’s stupid and won’t use it. He is clearly frustrated by me bringing the topic up every few weeks and said it’s exhausting.
At this point, he has made no suggestions and told me to just pick a name so at least one of us will like it. At the same time I’m aware every name I suggested he does not like and I’m not comfortable naming the baby something he dislikes. He seems so overly critical or uninterested in every name. I feel I have no other option than to choose the first name myself. It hurts me because I’d love feedback or to come to a short list of names we both like. I don’t know what to do.
TL;DR I don’t know how to get my husband to participate in naming our baby. He only suggests his mother’s name and we are running out of time.