Whenever my friends and I need to have a serious talk because someone felt like someone did something that really hurt them. And then we have the serious convo and they would start crying and say: but I tried so hard. It really irritates me for some reason. I don’t doubt they are trying their best but it also feels like they’re missing the point. It feels very “I” centric and that they’re only thinking about the ways they tried their best in their own perspective without like my perspective and values into account. It kinda also feels like they’re assuming things without actually asking like what my perspective is. Idk man