My fiancee and partner of 4 years (who makes 10x my salary) let me know recently he will not go through with the wedding unless I sign a prenup. My parents went through a terrible divorce, so I am completely open to this. He went to a lawyer that represents many coworkers of his and had a prenup drafted. It keeps everything separate (before, during, after marriage) BESIDES any joint accounts which are optional. I met with my own lawyer who discouraged me from signing as is because it does not guarantee me anything when I become a SAHM for a few years (which is my plan, at least while children are young). He suggested some clauses that would protect me further, but my fiancee refuses to change any aspect of his drafted agreement. He says it is cut and dry and I should trust him enough to know he will contribute to some joint accounts, guaranteeing me some money in case of divorce. I requested we at least specify how much or how often we must contribute to joint accounts, but he refused this also. I sign the prenup as is or call off the wedding. Am I being too difficult by wanting to add specificity to the agreement? Should 50% of optional joint accounts be enough?
We have argued repeatedly about this and I am starting to question everything. Any advice is appreciated.