Yes this includes even for sticking up for my wife when others (like family) say things that are uncalled for. She has a bigger temper than me and I’m usually the one that is more level headed.
The other day my brother in law (whom I’m on pretty good terms with) made a comment about how my wife’s male best friend (which already looks weird from the outside; it’s already not incredibly common to have an opposite sex friend when you’re married) is her boyfriend and how he’s not welcome to come over to his house (wife and the friend met on Reddit of all places, have always been platonic but I’ve had reservations about the friendship at the beginning). I met the friend a few times and he’s a nice guy and wouldn’t try anything to get with my wife; she’s not even his type.
My flaw is I’m not a confrontational guy, like at all. I want to say there are plenty of guys out there that are bigger pushovers when it comes to certain people but I’ve never been good with shutting down awkward and out of line comments (except for when my wife says them when we argue), especially when it comes to families. A lot of it has to do with me not knowing what to say at the time but I find out that by not saying anything sometimes it does more damage to the person that I could have stood up for.
Edit: is it ever too late to stick up for someone well after the thing happened? I’ve been going back and forth with telling my brother in law something like “hey about the comment you said the other day…” But keep wondering if I shouldn’t.