30f here. We just fought again for an hour while I tried to explain what I need and why I don’t have a sex drive for him anymore. I resent the act of sex with him. I’ve explained my needs and what turns me on – I need to be a least a little warmed up before he just sticks it in. Literally just a little touching first, nothing insane. If he does attempt to try what I’ve suggested, he expresses how frustrating it is to have to do that.. so at that point it’s not even enjoyable for me because I know he doesn’t want to be doing it so my heads not in it. He says I’m the only one he’s been with that’s needed this and I’m overly complicated and its just standard operating procedure the way he wants to do it. That any other girl has been happy with the way he just goes right into it. We’ve been together 7 years. He’s finished me once while drunk as a birthday present. I’m sick of being put down and frustrated with for not wanting to have sex anymore. And what started the argument, it’s new years and I wanted to start the year in a fun way for him so I initiated by playing with him, but once we got to the deed he uh, lost it, and now it’s my fault that he can’t get it up anymore because I haven’t seemed “into it” enough in the past. Someone tell me I’m not crazy?
TL;DR – Fiance says I’m too much work during sex. Do y’all need foreplay for sex or am I just too much work?