Hi, 23 f. I’ve been separated for about almost a year (kicked out of his house) Got married when we were very young (he was 18 I was 20) the other day he a showed up at my job and asked if I wanted to get divorced and I kinda just said okay. I really didint know what to say. I guess everything fizzled out last year because of my drinking and drug use. We grew up together and I know there’s still feelings. I just don’t know what’s going on with him. His little brother, older brother and dad passed awayvery suddenly from drug overdoses and suicide. In the past 3 years. They were like my family growing up as well.I used to babysit his brother younger brother when he was playing sports. He’s always taken care of all of us and is super emotionally strong. I’m crying typing this. I just don’t know what to do for him anymore. We literally met in foster care and spent most of our lives together. I want him to know I’m still here emotionally even though we are no longer intimate and he has a new girlfriend. He never talks about her. The last serious conversation we had was 3 weeks ago a mutual friend called him saying I was drinking too much and couldn’t pay my tab at the bar. He came by paid and drove me home. I asked him to talk about his dad passing and he said “one thing I learned is to not look back. You get nothing from living there. It’s all about what you’re doing right now.” Kissed me on the forehead and left. I’m scared he isn’t coping with everything and will implode. He is very intelligent, but there’s no way he is as calm as he looks. His mom is worried as well. HOW do I go about getting him to talk about these things as a friend. I’m even considering logging into his iCloud and seeing what he’s up too because I can feel it’s no good. (Always gets in trouble with law, always weasels his way out)