(sorry, it’s gonna be a longish read)
Bf and I have been together for over 9 years and things are amazing between us.
We have sex quite frequently and it feels pretty good but mostly doesn’t end with me having an orgasm.
On certain occasions which are usually prolonged(over 1 hrs), I do have orgasms and both of us were fine with it and assumed this to be a normal thing for me.
Had a couple of partners before meeting my bf and it was the same frequency of orgasms with them too.
For this New Year’s Eve, we went for a small gathering at our friend’s place, fast forward to just the 3 of us talking.
The conversation took a few odd turns and we asked our friend if he would like to join us for our first threesome.
So, I was going down on my bf while the other guy started fingering me, idk what he was doing exactly but it felt better than usual.
And out of nowhere I felt an orgasm building up and started cumming, barely even 10 mins into the act.
After which the guy made me cum 3 more times all of which felt extremely pleasurable.
After we got done and our friend left us on our own. Neither of us said too much other than agreeing that it was surprising, before cleaning up and going to sleep.
The next morning I woke up to my bf eating me out and fingering me.
It felt great but i didn’t orgasm again.
We had sex a few more times since then and every time it felt like my bf was trying too hard to push me over the tipping point but couldn’t.
During the last time he asked me if I felt great and I genuinely replied that I did feel great, only for him to reply back saying that he’s sorry he can’t make me orgasm.
Things are good in general but a little off and awkward between us sexually.
I know he’s feeling weird and I want to assure him that it’s all good but I’m not sure what I can say to him to make him feel better.
Specially, in a way which doesn’t come across as false reassurance because it definitely isn’t my intention.
I’m kinda lost and feeling bad about the whole thing, how do I make things less awkward and go back to normal again so that bf feels more confident about himself?
I’m also really confused about how the other guy was able to make my body react like that when it has never been the case and how am I even supposed to justify such a drastic random difference.