So i have a girlfriend i am 21 male my girlfriend is 22 female and it all started when we had sex and it never occured to me that i would get paranoid, but i did. I was scared i might get her pregnant because i grew up in a household or where parents and relatives always say “dont get your girlfriend pregnant because it will ruin your career and hers” you see i dont wanna ruin both our future, so i get paranoid but we had sex twice a month until we always tend to fight due to me being paranoid and i get distracted as well during classes when paranoia hits since we’re both still students right now. So i decided not to have sex and its been 3 months, now my girlfriend wants to have sex but i say i might get paranoid and we’re gonhna fight if i do. But she really wants to have sex with me and keeps assuring me that condoms are safe but i still get paranoid and im trying to control it but still. She wants to take pills for me but i dont want her to because of the side effects mentally for her. So we used condoms but i still get paranoid no matter what and shes a nurse by the way and assures me condoms are safe but i still get paranoid somehow
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I always pull out with the condom and calendar method as well, she finishes with hands and tongue when i go down on her without me putting my dick in her but she says “i want uour body thats why i want to have sex”