I think I am only comfortable in receiving oral sex but not giving but i have been told that it doesn’t work long term in a relationship and all that…
I had a bad experience with an ex partner that made me go down on him so i don’t quite like it and it wasn’t my cup of tea either before that. With women the same, the experience doesn’t do it for me i guess…
But receiving oral sex is one of the best parts of intimacy for me i just dont like to do it to others… would that be considered selfish? and if so i could I change this?