1. Some background. My pet bird recently got sick for the first time ever. I took him to the vet and spent over $150 on antibiotics. I assumed it was because of a cold or infection but through my boyfriends messages with his friend I found out my boyfriend “threw” my bird because he bit him. It was only after this that my bird became sick.
My boyfriend claimed the bird fell behind his cage and thats how he found the bird.
2. After this, we got into an argument because he didnt offer to go to the vet appt with me and he told his friend about this. He said and quote “This shit (our relationship) is taking up all my time. Its like throwing money away. Atleast I get nudes and head even when shes mad”
I know the obvious answer is to break up with him. But hes really so sweet outside of all this and only seems like a jerk when talking to his friends. I also dont have another support system outside of him and his incredible family. My family is not reliable and i dont have many friends. Additionally, I dont have a ton of relationship experience and have honestly never encountered a situation like this.
Thoughts? Advice?
TLDR: I read my boyfriends messages with his friend where I discovered he harmed my pet and also shit talked me. lol.