We’ve been in a relationship for over a year now, and during the first six months, our intimate life was satisfying. However, after that period, he started experiencing difficulties in achieving and maintaining an erection, which I believe may be due to the pills he takes for his baldness.
I tried to encourage him to see a doctor about it, but he refused and kept assuring me that things would improve on their own. Unfortunately, the situation only worsened to the point where he no longer wanted any physical contact with me. Despite expressing my frustration to him multiple times, he remained adamant about not seeking medical help.
Then, just last week, the security staff of our building informed me that an escort girl had come looking for our apartment. I confronted him about it, and although he initially denied it, he eventually admitted that he had called her to “help him fix his problems.”
His explanation was that he wanted to determine whether his difficulty in getting an erection was due to his own issues or because I was no longer attracted to him. They didn’t engage in sexual intercourse, but they did touch each other down there and he was still unable to get hard with the escort, not once but twice. His excuse for the 2nd time was “trying again just to be sure”.
He tried to justify his actions by saying that he did it to salvage our relationship and spare me from feeling unhappy due to the lack of sexual intimacy.
On that same day, I discovered that he had been communicating with multiple girls through various social media platforms. He explained that throughout his life, he had never received much attention, so he constantly seeks validation from other girls.
How do I make sense of this ?