So I (M21) have been dating this girl (F18) for over a month already. It has been going really good, she’s pretty much what I’d want in a girlfriend. She said she wants to be my girlfriend and I would like her to be but the problem is that we haven’t kissed yet. She’s too nervous to kiss and needs time.
This happened in my last relationship where my ex was too nervous to kiss me and needed more time and it never happened and she left me for someone else. The girl I’m currently dating had dated someone else before and was the same way until he cheated on her after a couple months because she wasn’t ready to kiss him.
today she said that she wanted to cuddle with me next time we watch a show and I said I’d like that and I’d give her a kiss while I was holding her. I was being playful and she texted saying that if I tried to kiss her the whole time she’d shove me away and move to the other couch. I never said I would make out with her but just the reaction to that made me feel bad and made me ask this question. She also told me before that the mention of sex makes her uncomfortable
She wants to be my girlfriend but I planned on telling her that I don’t want to be in a relationship yet until she feels ready and comfortable enough to kiss me. We can keep going on dates but i just want a relationship where physical intimacy with someone who isn’t nervous anymore.
I haven’t pressured her at all to do anything and she’s been really appreciative of that but for me I don’t want to be in a relationship where there’s barely any intimacy. I also don’t want to make her feel like she has to so idk if I should tell her this.
TLDR; is it wrong to ask the girl I’m dating that I don’t want a relationship yet until she feels comfortable enough to kiss me