In my early thirties, I dated somebody while they went through the motions of divorce for the span of two years. I was essentially their rebound. When I met them, they were separated from their ex-wife. It ended up being a very hurtful experience and I vowed to not be a divorce rebound again. It didn’t scar me entirely, as I was able to date somebody fully divorced later down the road, and that relationship was fulfilling even if it didn’t work out.
Now in my late thirties, I find myself interested in somebody who is going through a divorce again. They stated they have been legally separated for the last three years and are having issues finalizing the divorce due a lot of arguing over assets and they seem to be coming to an agreement with their ex-spouse soon. They have always used the word divorce when they talk about it.
However, when you look up the public records of their proceedings, all it says is:
Case Type Family – Legal Separation – Pending
I am trying to curb my anxieties about repeating my past mistake and so is it possible to go from a Legal Separation Pending straight to a Divorce? Or is it possible that the person is lying and I should move on? Also, this information is from a website that crawls public records and isn’t the direct county website. I generally google the names of people I go out on date with and it came up with their name.
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