I (31F) matched with a guy (31M) on Bumble whos profile stated he was looking for a relationship (and so am I). We went on two really nice dates and had a great connection, very deep conversations as we have many shared interests. He was genuinely nice and acted as a gentleman.
First date, we went our for drinks and just had a great banter. He asked me out again for a movie and dinner, he planned everything and paid except for drinks at the cinema (I paid) and the dinner (I offered to split). Overall was a very good and fun experience, although I wasn’t sure he felt romantically attracted to me for some reason? Like there was not much flirting, and we did not kiss.
Here comes the weird part. Next day after the second date he texted me a loooong message that although he thinks I am a lovely person, fun company and very pretty, he doesn’t seem to feel a spark he’s after and wished my luck in my dating game. Totally fine with me, as I did not have any expectations at that stage, so I texted him: ‘yeah I guess the same with me, was nice meeting you, all the best’.
Next day, he texted me again, asking whether I’d be interested in FWB. I said No and blocked him.
I just don’t understand, how would he see FWB with me if there was no ‘spark’? And how messed up is it to offer something like this to someone after rejecting them?
My curiousity comes more from my interest in male psychology and not willing to get into a similar situation again.
Just curious to know your thoughts!