I met my BF of 8 years in a pretty complicated context. We were both recovering after a massive accident that injured tens of people, killing dozens, including his then GF of 2 years. We got together a year and a few months after the accident and our relationship came with many ups and downs, mostly because he experienced great difficulty moving on from his late GF. However, two years into our relationship, things became normal and we moved in together, and ever since stuff has been pretty good. About a year ago, I talked to him about getting married, and he said he’s not ready yet, and let’s talk about it again later. I opened the conversation this year because he wants us to buy a house together, and, to my surprise, he still said he’s not ready, yet he’d like me to use my savings to purchase a home with him. I told him I don’t think that’s right and he said that he’ll buy it himself then, and we can share it. I’m uncomfortable about the whole thing because I feel like he only wants my contribution when it’s to his personal advantage. Should this make me think twice about the direction our relationship is taking?
TL/DR Boyfriend of 8 years doesn’t want to marry me but expects me to buy a house with him. Should his behavior be a deal breaker?