I will start this off by saying I am a very anxious person and I get scared really easily. My bf and I have been out of relationships for about a year now each and been together a few months. We were talking about our pasts just casually and I asked him “you don’t want your ex back right” and he said “I meannn” and then immediately said “I’m just kidding no I do not that was a bad joke I’m sorry”. And I was crushed, he immediately started reassuring me that if she called him wanting him back he would say no and if hypothetically he wanted her back he still could never do that to himself because of everything that happened between them. I did cry, that was a fear of mine (not that he knew it), I did get upset and say he should not have said that and it hurt me a lot, he said if he actually did have feelings for her or anything he would feel absolutely guilty for being with me (I will say we are both still mentally healing from our exes, like the shit that happened to us) . I’m here to ask if you guys do think it was a joke and that I overreacted or if I’m valid in my feelings. How should I approach this? I’m not fishing to hear my bf is an asshat or anything and I know I shouldn’t have brought up his ex at all. But I was just curious if this sounds like a joke to anyone else and if I should just drop it because he’s reassured me to the moon and back. I wanted to see how anyone else could see this is a joke and maybe I was missing something
Tl;dr: my bf joked about wanting his ex back and I got severely anxious and upset and I’m unsure if I overreacted.