He’s a 50 something year old man, fat, messy office, seems to gloat about how women are catty, lives alone with his cat and volunteered info to me about celebrating christmas alone with his cat (I never asked). Why would I take advice from this man or take his perspective seriously if I don’t want to end up like him? I am going to therapy because I am “supposed” to and I hear about how worth therapy is but I don’t see a difference and I wonder if I should try a new person.