Hello everyone,
I’m asking this question directly to girls but maybe many mens could benefit from it, but first let me give you a little incipit
So I (21M) am currently struggling to find somebody that gives me that “spark” if you know what I mean. I met a girl last November at a pub, it was a really genuine situation, we were just having fun and dancing (never danced before but apparently I impressed her somehow, I’m still not understanding what happened that night).
I texted her after 2/3 weeks (I took I my time, I know, it was only thanks to some friends of mine that I wrote her, otherwise I’m too “scared”, I had a lot of rejections and I was just focusing on myself)
Anyway, we started chatting and we had a couple of dates, (at least they were dates for me, I think that for her it was just hanging out), with this said, our chats became more and more desultory, just to be clear we live around 30mins by car from each other and we both have a car, so meeting wouldn’t be that much of a problem, but still our connection kinda died, the thing is that few days ago I invited her to hang out ‘cause I have a Christmas gift I still have to give to her, and she replied yes but she’s not making any effort, absolutely nothing, not a message, not an “hey how are you”, “when are we meeting” or anything
This made my “spark” kinda die for her, to be honest I expected it, this kind of episodes have been going on forever and it feels like I already know where everything is gonna end
BUT I’M HERE FOR AN ANSWER SO HERE’S THE QUESTION: As I said, for me everything started the first night when we met, the only fact that we were staring at each other and she was smiling at me was enough for me to build a whole castle… but now that I’m kinda over it, what would you say is your “spark starter”? Even something related to your previous experiences, I’m seeing a psychologist and one of the first things that came out is that I tend to run a little too much, so this might have been the problem for me, but still from the other side I never had a sign of appreciation or interest, I don’t consider myself ugly or uninteresting, just a regular person trying to be the best of myself and I’m curious to know what these situations mean to you