So I’ve (29M) been with my first gf (23F) for about 6 months now. We have very similar interests, values, beliefs, etc, it’s sometimes scary just how much we have in common. I can tell just how much of an honest, kind of woman she is.
The only thing we have been struggling however is our sexual relationship. It’s been this long and we’ve only really tried twice. The first time I’ll admit maybe we went a bit too fast and no intercourse even happened, it was just cuddling. There was a second time where she mainly tried to help me get off with a handjob but I felt horrible since it felt like she only did it cause she felt bad for not being in the mood.
And now recently we tried again but again no intercourse happened. I was okay with it to be honest, I figured I could maybe wait a year before she’s comfortable with it. But during this most recent attempt it felt even more so that she didn’t like my member at all. I was able to get her off just fine (supposedly) like last time but whenever it came to me it’s like she wanted nothing to do with it. It was a struggle to get her to even hold it and try to stroke it, and when she did she only did it for a little bit before stopping. She’s not open to doing oral to me (even though I’ve done it), letting me finish on her, or use her breasts.
Before she left yesterday she said she would like it if I was more aggressive with her but she said “only if it makes me feel good, not the other way around”. At first I thought nothing of it, but now I’m wondering if she even wants to please me in the slightest? She says the mere thought of putting her mouth on it makes her gag and that she even had to look away while stroking me. Both times I ended up just having to do it myself in the bathroom or on my bed while she was there.
She swears she’s straight but I can’t help but wonder if she really is or not. I could be wrong but are straight girls usually like this when inexperienced?? She only had sex once before me and she accidentally told me he was way bigger but said it was a one time fling and that mine is the perfect size, but that was another hurdle I also had to get over.
She’s great in almost everything else and I really enjoy being with her, but her unwillingness to do anything sexual with me down there just makes me feel really unattractive even though she says that I am.
I don’t want it to be the reason why we break up cause everything else has been so great, has anyone else been in a similar situation or have advice on how to make this better?
Tldr:
I have been with my gf for 6 months now and how sexual relationship has made very little progress and I feel as though she’s not as attracted to me as she says she is